Fifty Shades of Grey DVD is here!



Endless Shades of Great Sex DVD

Endless Shades of Great Sex: A Bondage Guide for Lovers is here! This is a DVD that will help you turn your bedroom into a Fifty Shades of Grey playground. This is a much anticipated arrival and addition to our store, and we are excited to share it with you.

Let's be clear, this is not the book turned into a movie.  Rather is a DVD that teaches you how to create your own personal Fifty Shades of Grey experience. Bondage is a type is an exchange of trust between committed couples. Learn how to dominate or be dominated.  Learn what tools and toys can enhance the experience.  It's all about creating your own erotic scenerios.  

Drop your inhibitions for a few hours and bring your fantasies to life!

Check out our entire selection kinky and fun toys at Melose Urban Female Bondage Department.

15% OFF ENTIRE ORDER!

15%  OFF ENTIRE ORDER!

Don't know about you, but this month just seems really long.  Don't get us wrong ... who does not love November? It's the start of everything festive.  But we ended last month with Storm Sandy and  the presidential election was exhausting. Geez.  Enough already!

As a gift to our blog readers, you know who you are, here is an early Thanksgiving treat for you. Take 15% off your entire order.  Use promo code thanks2012

As always, thanks for checking in with us. 

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It's Been a Very, Very Grey Summer

The summer of 2012 is officially over, and looking back, all I can say is this: it's been a very grey summer.  But I mean that in a good way.

Ever since the Shades of Grey trilogy, what we sell has really changed. Melrose Urban Female has seen many seasons change, but product demand was always the same.  Come rain or shine, snow or sleet, our customers have bought vibrators and dildos. And typically it was women buying for themselves.

But since those books, I can just look at an order and know exactly what the inspiration is.  We have never sold so many beads and balls, whips and ropes! Bondage is typically a male fantasy, but now it seems to be everyone's fantasy.  Women are buying these products.   However, it does seem the men are still the real shoppers when it comes to this.  But for the first time, guys seem to have the nod of approval from their female partners, and they are like kids in a candy store.

It's hard to say what the fall will bring.  But we will keep our bondage department stocked. You never know... people might still be feeling "grey." 

The Muse -- Is it a clock radio or vibrator?

On occasion, I will come cross a product that really catches my eye.  Sure, when I go to trade shows, all the products look good.  The toy makers go out of their way with displays and lighting and their sales pitches are spot on perfect. Especially in trade magazines, everything just jumps out at you.  Photoshop and graphics can sell anything. It's quite overwhelming. 

The MUSE

Every few days, I trek over to your distributor's warehouse in the San Fernando Valley to pick up products and see what is new (we are a hands-on company).  Even though this place is loaded with sex toys, there is nothing sexy about about it. I don't mean to destroy any fantasies, but it's a nuts and bolts business.  Dildos and vibrators in crates and boxes,  and what is going out is heaped into shopping carts -- just like ones you would find at Target.  So, there I was just walking down a huge warehouse aisle of "stuff,"  when this odd little creature caught my attention.  It was almost as if he had spoken my name: "I am over here, Amy."  He had this round little body and ears sticking straight up. He was just sitting there with a bunch of other vibrators, but he demanded my attention but in a very subtle way.  Hence his name: MUSE.  He is the MUSE MASSAGER.  By the way, innocent looking you could put him on your nightstand and your roommates would think you had a really interesing clock radio.

Yeah, the descriptions reads something like:  "The Muse is a one-of-a kind clitoral stimulator that’s waterproof, made with premium silicone and has a cute design that is very female friendly."  That is all accurate and fine, but there's more to the MUSE.  I can't quite put my finger on it.  It is ephemeral. Like a muse.  As you can imagined, I  quickly started my research and develpment and added the MUSE to Melrose Urban Female.  

The MUSE is a product of NS Novelties.  Just recently they revealed their new  line-up which starred the MUSE.  I will give credit where credit is due.  All their products are really nice.  I am a stickler for nice, simple packaging.  I cannot stand blister packs and packaging with boobs. Enough of my rant... NS Novelties seems to have delivered a very nice line of products.  Excellent design, good packaging and very affordable. They are MUF-worthy.  

Thanks for taking the time to read about us and the MUSE.

The Butterfly Kiss Lives On

We've had the Butterfly Kiss in our store, Melrose Urban Female, for a few years now, and it continues to be a bestseller. And we are not at all surprised by its success.  The Buttefly Kiss is the perfect vibrator in many ways.  It's priced right.  It's sized right.  And it works right.





Butterfly Kiss Platinum

You've all heard it: "You get what you pay for."  As the owner of Melrose Urban Female, I don't upsell our customers, but when I really feel they would be better served by a more expensive product, I will put that option out there.  I never want a dissatisfied customer, and I truly do what them to make the right purchase.  But I am also aware of budget limitations and know its important to stay within them.  That said, whenever customers ask about the Butterfly Kiss, I always say: "Good choice. You can't go wrong with that one."  For about $20, they are getting a great vibrator. Not to take anything way from those expensive ones,  because they can be quite amazing and worth every cent. Quality products can last a lifetime.  Cheaper ones will show their age much sooner,  and as we all know... you do get what you pay for. 
However, I am a cheerleader for this inexpensive, little sex toy. The Butterfly Kiss has a great design.  It's perfectly shaped for the female body.  It has wings to stimulate the clitoris and a bulbed shaft for internal and g-spot stimulation.  Unlike many vibrators which are stiff, the Butterfly Kiss is flexible, and you can maneuver it to work with your body.  It's sized perfectly for beginners or women who just want a small, extremely quiet vibrator to easily stash in their night stand.  The only caveat would be for women who really want more fullness in a vibrator.  The Butterfly Kiss is not a large, thick vibrator. 



Butterfly Kiss

Unlike many vibrators, the Butterfly Kiss has an amazingly simple design.  It's super easy to put the batteries into it and has an easy push-button control.  No dials, no knobs, no up and down arrows.  I will make this declaration:  anyone can work the Butterfly Kiss.  I come across many vibrators and still have to take out manuals or go to you YouTube to figure them out.  No. #1 reason why vibrators come back to us:  incorrect battery insertion.  This has never been a problem with the Butterfly. 

Don't get me wrong, there are many other vibrators I really love.  But for the price, the Butterfly Kiss is a smart choice.  Thanks for taking the time to read about it.  Please feel free to contact us with any questions.

LELO Tiani wins the Coveted Red Dot Award this Year!

STOCKHOLM/SAN JOSE — Swedish designer brand LELO has won the international Red Dot Design Award 2012 for the LELO Tiani, the first remote-controlled couples’ massager to respond to motion-sensor technology, where vibrations are created through movements of the remote.

The award was announced on March 14.

Red Dot-winning products are marked by exceptionality, for their high degree of innovation, functionality, ergonomics, self-explanatory quality, and ecological compatibility, the company said.

This year, a jury of the world’s leading design experts received more than 4,500 product submissions. As a Red Dot winner, the LELO Tiani now stands alongside the likes of past winners such as the Apple iPhone 4, BMW 5er Touring and Bose SoundDock.

“LELO is pleased and proud to be recognized globally as a leader in design with our revolutionary Couples Massager Tiani,” said Donna Faro, LELO North and South America director sales and marketing. “Receiving the prestigious Red Dot Award and to stand amongst the leading brands in the world is truly an honor. At LELO we believe that superior quality and highest design are the standards our customers deserve and we will continue to design products that are of excellence and desire.”

The Red Dot Awards are carried out in three disciplines: Product Design, Communication Design and Design Concept. In 2011 alone, more than 14,000 entries from more than 70 countries were registered in all three categories.

See all Lelo products at Melrose Urban Female.

Shhhh... Discreet Vibrators

Somethings are better left private.  Or at least not obivous.  If you travel a lot, live with roommates, kids... or maybe even parents... and you are in need of sexual pick-me-up but do not want to let everyone know that, perhaps a super discreet vibator has your name written on it.  Some discreet sex toys are so cleverly designed, you would never suspect that lipstick works on a different pair of lips. In additon to hiding a secret vibrating motor, these products are typically very small and very quiet.  These hidden secrets are perfect for  purses, suitcases, nightstands. Some can even be completely out in the open and no one would have clue.

We encourage you to check out all of our favorite secret massagers, but here are five that we consider super disceet:

I Rub My Duckie Travel Size

Don't let the small size fool you. I Rub My Duckie, the travel size is a powerful yet quiet personal massager that is big enough to put a smile on your face.

Incognito Lipstick

Looking exactly like lipstick in its case, the Icongnito Lipstick is the ultimate girly girly accessory and the perfect travel companion.



Massaging Hairbrush

It's a vibrating, massaging hairbrush for your head - really! But, who could blame you if you took advantage of the powerful stimulation of the soothing massager to comb out what you've got down there?



Vibrating Mascara

So much power at just the blink of an eye... vibrating mascara!

Vibrating Panda

This cute little guy packs the vibration for body aches or full body pleasure. Use him on you neck your back your ...anywhere. Very discrete very cute and very powerful.



10 Ways to Be a Superb Lover

We all like to think of ourselves as having some degree of bedroom talents — and I'm sure we do. But with all our years of experience between the sheets, are we at the top of our game?

Let's face it, there are things we could all do to be better in bed. Maybe you're not as great a lover as you'd like to be — or are gifted in one area but can grow in another. The good news is that all of us can improve. Here are the top 10 qualities I think a person needs to be a superb lover. Of course, they all take practice — but that's a chore I'm sure you won't mind taking on.Tell your partner what you want in bed and then practice, practice, practice!


Be Emotive
Great lovers let you know what a fantastic time they are having. It's exciting to know that you are causing all those great noises you hear, and disconcerting if your best efforts produce only the tiniest grunts or whispers. Yell and let it all out to show your appreciation!

Listen to Your Partner
Don't just do your thing — do your partner's thing. How do you know what your partner likes? You ask and you listen. You listen to their noises, their words, and you observe what increases their breath, pulse rate and body tension. You become a master observer of your beloved.

Ask — and Tell!
Don't just guess what your partner likes — ask. And don't expect your partner to be a mind reader. Just because you've been making love for a long time doesn't mean you really know what he or she would prefer. And if you are gay, don't think you will know everything your partner wants because you are the same sex. You only know what you've been doing — but you might tell your partner something you'd like to try or have more of. Give directions at the precise moment, so you can show your partner what you need.

Dare to Be Different
Surprises are sexy, as long as they aren't frightening or a turn-off to your partner. Do something out of character and fun. Does she think he will never come to bed in anything but boxers? Wear European underwear that will shock her and make her giggle, but also get aroused. Does he think she would never wear a slinky teddy or a blood-red nightgown? Do it. If you want to be daring, come home with a bunch of sex toys and ask him or her to pick one — maybe two. Knock their socks off.

Slow Down
There's a classic love song by the Pointer Sisters with these longing lyrics: "I want a man with a slow hand. I want a lover with an easy touch." Mmmm. That means a man who takes his time pleasing his woman, who explores her gently and makes her excited with anticipation. It works for men, too. Let your fingers do the walking and talking — slowly and carefully, exploring areas gently and purposefully. Let your partner tell you what pressure and places would be good to visit.

Think Outside the Bedroom

Fabulous lovemaking doesn't only happen between the sheets. Are you on the beach, in the shallows after most of the resort has gone to bed? Are you on a plane and your partner's hand slowly reaches for you under the cover? Would you pull off the road for a quickie? You might not want to follow all of these suggestions, but you get turned on by some of them, and are flattered that your partner wants to do these things with you.

Indulge Your Fantasies
Imagine, as you lay down in bed, your lover taps into one of your fantasies and whispers in your ear, "You are the sultan's daughter and I am but a lowly carpet salesman who has seen you in the market. Our eyes meet and we know. You imperiously call your guards and tell me I must come to the palace. I am afraid of course, but also excited. … When I get there you dismiss the guards and turn toward me. You say, "You must do what I say." … Well you get the gist. Who could not crave a person who makes your fantasies come true?

Use Your Eyes
I know eye contact sounds easy, but it isn't. Sex therapist David Schnarch says maintaining eye contact can create "wall-socket sex." If you never look away, but hold each other with your eyes, the intimacy increases exponentially. Electricity builds up between you and the world fades away. This is a major way to have transcendent sex.

Explore All Kinds of Kisses
Great lovers don't always kiss the same way. There are deep kisses, light kisses, delicate kisses and passionate lip-scrunching kisses. Furthermore, there should also be kisses in new places … surprising ones.

Be in the Moment
Great lovers do not have their Blackberry next to their bed. Great lovers have no one in their mind but the person they are with and they are 100 percent focused on their partner. They show by word and deed that they are interested solely in your pleasure. They are focused from the time you decide to make love to the time you both drift off to sleep. What could be more flattering and satisfying?

Sex Toys Are Not Just for Sinners Anymore!

Over at the Daily Beast, Allison Yarrow has written a fascinating story about the emerging niche industry of sex toys marketed to religious folks. By way of introducing this seemingly contradictory world, she explores the offerings of a number of order-sites, including Book 22 for Christians, Kosher Sex Toys for Jews and Al Asira for Muslims, all of which curate their inventories to the unique needs and moral sensitivities of their respective consumer bases. And Yarrow finds that, contrary to the perception that the devout may suffer from furtive or otherwise poor sex lives, pious people are just as interested as sinners are in doing it well. The problem, however, is that many of them initially don’t know where to start.

Because of a lack of proper sex education, Ribner [a rabbi and sex therapist] said, religious couples often suffer from misguided advice. “One couple was told that if the woman does not like sex, she should take two Tylenol and finish as quickly as possible,” he said. In his work with Kosher Sex Toys, he has advised on topics ranging from the science of erectile dysfunction to the morality of spanking a partner.

The managers of these “marital aide” stores (some dislike the term “sex shop”) see themselves as both educators and bedroom missionaries of a sort, assisting god-fearing couples in their maintenance of the all-important marriage bond. Their tools are the same as those employed by secular stores like Melrose Urban Female; it’s just that the standard vibrators and massage oils are repackaged without any of the traditional titillating descriptions or pornographic imagery. Moreover, the websites themselves tend to focus on the spiritual transcendence of sex as opposed to its more earthly pleasures.

To an outsider, visiting the religious sites feels a bit like listening to the bleeped-out version of an explicit hip-hop song: the substance is the same, it’s just missing the X-rated details … And while they don’t flaunt their holiness, they’ll occasionally rely on religious messaging to sell themselves, or perhaps put potential customers at ease. Book 22, for example, promises to “enhance the intimate life of all God’s children.”

Good sex is clearly important for a healthy romantic relationship, and if religious types (especially orgasm-desiring women) need a holier box around their vibrator in order to make it palatable, I say praise the lord.